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STARS Podcast


Apr 16, 2021

Starting to learn anything new is a gut punch. I feel like it is a necessary evil, that gut punch that is humility.
Humility is a superpower that I want to dive in on. Everyone likes to say they have humility because its hip and cool and we are supposed to be empathetic and self aware. Its lip service from most people I talk to. They want to say they are self aware and open to feedback but fail to respond accordingly when I give feedback.
Maybe that is in my delivery. Maybe the actual words I said were not right.
We need to have a conversation about my behaviors too. Yes, they're tough. Its tough to put yourself out there when you just went after the other person for their stuff.
Thats the point! That humility breeds more humility. That part BREEDS GOOD CONVERSATION. We get to the ROOT CAUSE! In business we call this a root cause analysis. Some comapnies call it "lessons learned" or "post op" or "tailgate meeting". I'm sure you can fill in the gaps I missed there.
The only way we learn about each other and create trust is by being vulnerable. In that vulnerability we let the other person know that we are just as human as they are. I would not go out of my way to make a mistake and then call attention to it, that is just manipulation. However, I will call out a MINOR mistake I have made to do two things. First it lets them know I am looking at the details. SOmethign I am not great at. FOr you long time listeners, you know that I am the WORST at details. Us 100MPH entrepreneur type see a new goal to accomplish sometimes before we can get that first one completely across teh finish line. It happens. Pointing out that small detail starts that relationship. That small detail would have KILLED me early in my career. I would have sat there and thought to myself that this person will think I am an idiot if they realize I made that mistake. THEN i would sit there and worry that they were thinking that. INSTEAD of living in the WHAT IF world, we start living in the world where those mistakes are little gold nuggets of trust. I think of my mistakes now as opporutnities. not only an opportuntiy for me to learn and to build a relationship with a new customer/friend/lover.
Be careful with your work. Be careful with your words. However, when we do make a mistake just make sure you look in the mirror first before you start pointing fingers. Extreme ownership by JOcko WIllink is a great tool I talk about often. Another tool is the production "Into the Woods".
Recently we went to a local high school to watch the production be put on by these fearless high school students. Seriously, they were fantastic. Sure they could have used work, but they're high school kids and they killed it in my book. The story is a mashup of Cinderella, Jack and the Bean Stalk and Little Red Riding Hood. See they all needed something from one another, but didn't know it until they went into the woods. This is classic hero journey as we know from Steven Pressfield's work i have talked about before. Once they all meet one another though a series of wild circumstances and a crazy old man they end up making a huge mistake that they all have a part in creating. There is a number where they all blame each other, but realize quickly they all had a part in the mistake and learn to live with it because they OWN their part. I also heard another example yesterday because of the Ben Askren and Jake Paul MMA matchup coming up. The interviewer asks what do you think about the haters out there Jake? Jake said " I think i'm an elite level fighter, they think I am a joke. I am somewhere in the middle I would guess. BUt we will find out when we fight how good i really am. ". EVen Jake Paul can win me over with some humility.
Shout out to my brothers and sisters at Monarch BJJ who are competing tomorrow at Grappling INdustries. We have a DEEP crew coming at you tomorrow and we are all coming for GOLD chains!
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